Do Looks Matter To Girls?

You are in luck my friend. When it comes to how to attract women, looks don't really matter to girls. Most people have the common misconception that looks might actually be a factor, though that is so far from the truth. If you are living into that idea, than it’s most likely the biggest reason, as to why you aren’t attracting women into your life in the first place.

Let’s break down exactly why looks aren’t what women find attractive in men. What do you think men are attracted to in women?

You may just think that it’s looks that men find to be what generates attraction from men to women. Some of it may actually be visual. Though, it’s not. From an evolutionary psychology stand point, we are led to believe that men are attracted to woman not exactly for their looks. What men are actually attracted to in women, are signs of youth and fertility. She doesn’t necessarily have to be young and or fertile, though if she demonstrates the energy and optimism of someone who does possess these traits, than she will be highly attractive to men.

This is because, as men we know that if we were to find someone who had youthful energy and was able to have a child, the child will be beautiful and healthy as well. Beautiful and healthy people, have an advantage in life, typically being given privileges in life, like higher pay, and self-assurance. To have kids that knew how to make themselves be happy, would make your life as a father, a success.

Now, what do women find to be attractive in men? What are women attracted to in men? They are attracted to personal value and social status. Social status, meaning having the potential to provide and protect with ease. This doesn’t mean the guy has to have a lot of money, though it does mean he has to possess the traits of someone who could have financial stability. Someone who is well-off financially tends to be confident and happy.
If you are a man who is confident and happy well then you possess the traits of someone who has social status.
What you have to understand that, is that however you first portray yourself to people is how they will believe you to actually be. The same goes for yourself. If you are wanting to have a lot of money, instead of worrying so much about what you want to have, it would be better to identify how someone who has a lot of money acts in the world. How does that person, make people around him feel? How do people receive him. If you can play into being a person who has money, then it will be a lot easier for you to actually take the actions into what will make you the money.

Now, not only is social status what is attractive, also is personal value. Personal value essentially is, how much you believe you deserve. People that feel as if they deserve the best, tend to get the best. Most men, work backwards and believe they need social status before getting personal value. This is completely invalid. It would be better to go about getting personal value in order to gain social status.
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This article was originally written by our awesome friend, Kevin Salas. Original article at Do Looks Matter To Girls?

3 Simple Steps To Attract Women

Well, this advice is probably going to fly in the face of everything you know.  I know that when I was starting off getting better with women, I wanted to know some lines.

We've got chat up lines, but listen - knowing what to say will not make as much of a difference as what I'm about to share with you.

So who am I to be writing this blog?

Well, I've run the largest pickup training company in the world.  I've coached hundreds of guys how to attract girls, and overseen the training of thousands.  I've been on CNN, in Men's Health, and even been recognized with awards I didn't know about.

But I used to be painfully shy - like, really afraid to talk to women.  I couldn't pick up women if my life depended on it.  And I felt like I had NO power.  I never felt like I could do better.

So whether that's you... or whether you've never even had a girlfriend, or whether you're just looking for advice to help you pick up women next time you're out... well, this is here because I want you to have the power to attract women too.

So let's get to it:

Turn Them On With Your Eyes
1.) Make Longer Eye Contact: Seriously - this has more of an effect than anything else.  And you know what?  When you're really into her, it's HARD to do.  But this is the VERY first thing you need to get right.  It's like a big tell in poker.  Guys who can attract women easily get this right, guys who struggle with women get it wrong.  Women know and feel the difference.

How to Do It: Pay attention next time you're out and you're chatting up a woman who you like.  Let your eye contact linger for a few extra moments, and tilt your head to the side and narrow your gaze.  Just remember to do it.  It took me years to realize how important this was, and it's one of the first things that we drill with our clients.  It demonstrates more coolness and sexiness than anything else you could do.

2.) Shut Up Already: Why do guys run out of things to say when they try to pick up women?  Because they keep running their mouths, and don't give the girl space to ask questions. If a woman is halfway into you, she'll start wanting to know what you're about.  Don't give her long answers - chunk em up.  For example, if she asks what you do, rather than saying "Oh, I'm an accountant. It's pretty boring but you know, it pays the bills, say "Oh... I'm an accountant. Then give her a slight smirk and make eye contact with her, as if to invite her to ask more.  She will.  This is the sort of behavior that will definitely attract women - this is how awesome guys with nothing to prove act.

3.)  Push Forward: There is nothing more sexy for a woman than to be desired by a man she values.  If she's feeling you, at all, then step it up.  Touch her lightly, ask for her number, get in closer to her... guys who are awesome with girls always go for the kiss without asking for it.  Just know that she wants to feel the desire of a strong, confident man.  And you're gonna seriously enjoy attracting women once you get over the fear and make it happen.

How To Do It: You might want to check out our article on how to attract women with body language - that will tell you where to start.  There are always boundaries, and while you're learning how to attract women better, you can either proceed slowly, inch by inch, or you can hit the boundary hard a few times and learn that way.  The second way a lot faster, a lot more aligned with your masculine nature (hey, you're the pursuer), and you know what?  Women find it hot.